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  • Writer's pictureAdrian Kingsford

Can I have my cake and eat it too?

This phrase literally means that you can't do or have two things at the same time, that are impossible to do or have at the same time, i.e., you can have the cake, but if you eat it, you don't have the cake anymore.


Some would say there's no point having the cake if you don't eat it. After all, who wants to own a cake just to look at it, or to say they own it, surely the enjoyment of having the cake is in the eating.


The phrase 'have your cake and eat it too' might give a negative impression of wanting too much, but from a coaching perspective, this phrase underscores a fundamental principle that the true value of anything lies in its utilisation or application, not just its possession.


In coaching, it's essential to translate concepts and strategies into tangible actions. Just like a cake that was made to be eaten, knowledge and skills gained through coaching are most valuable when they are actively applied. A strategy or idea discussed in a coaching session is like an uneaten cake if not implemented.


For executive leaders and teams, the philosophy of 'eating the cake' translates into fully leveraging every resource. Acquiring new tools or skills, or hiring new talent, is only the beginning. The real competitive advantage comes from these resources being fully integrated, utilised, and aligned with the business activities and goals.


Coaching encourages you not just to set goals, but to actively engage with these goals. This active engagement is crucial for personal development and achieving professional success. It ensures that you are not just passively owning your ambitions (like an untouched cake) but are actively enjoying and benefiting from your efforts.


So, reframing the idea of 'having your cake and eating it too' to emphasise full engagement and utilisation can drive home the importance of action. Whether it’s adopting new business strategies, enhancing team dynamics, creating alignment and accountability, or enabling personal growth, the true benefit comes from using what you've learned and applying it effectively. This is how coaching can help you not just to have, but to truly benefit from your learning and developmental journey.


Personally, I choose to eat my cake, preferably with icing and a cherry on top!

How about you? If you're local, I'd be happy to meet for coffee and cake to find out!



Thanks for reading.


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